Her talent was stifled by her brother.#movie #foryou #edit

They didn't?

Facts

How they gonna do that at school when they have jobs😭✌️

Whats the show name

And also her brother needs to learn some bit of independence for his own wellbeing or whatever🦭

Edit: I have just read pretty much all the replies on my comment and the ppl who were on about 'how it isnt the same for everyone with a disability' which is right and now I understand that and know that some ppl have to be looked after but still have some independence and some can learn to live pretty much on there own but in reference to the vid I just felt like it wasn't being good parents to have the sister drop almost everything cause of her brother and that she should be able to have her own life while still helping with her brother when she can.

Edit2: I read all of them finally and I just wanted to say can ppl please stop arguing and just have a nice calm civil talk with 'nice words' please?

​@greenbeanz4everatypical

​@FlairDiesYT when they get home😂

That was her bf and I genuinely agree with him:(

​@atomicboredomband thank you

Yeah , they need to find ways to support their child without ruining the other childs life

The whole purpose of having kids is so that you can use them. They are to do whatever you want because you give them life

​@Dave_of_Mordor that is not true

Ik you wouldn't have said that if you had parents like that

@Dave_of_Mordor that’s not true at all. You should never have kids if you think every kid should be a little slave.

​@Dave_of_Mordordamn, son. Someone had a shitty childhood😂

I was a little spoiled and babied compared to most of my sisters, my parents got softer as they got older, so I got my ass whooped when I was little, but the worse that happened to me as a teen from misbehaving was my dad beating my ass cause I was annoying my little sister while he was trying to sleep

​@BubbleTheMighty1unfortunately no

And she cheated on him

​@lelletyWHAT

​@Eykonswhereyouat yeah, it's on season 3. She cheats on him with a girl and ends up with her

He’s the boyfriend

He was js stopping the swinging hair

@lellety that's not nice

​@GETOUTOFMYSUSHIROLL It doesn't matter its still assault, and their inability to train that boy to act responsibly in public can get him arrested or shot.

It low-key hit hard cuz I have an autistic brother and my parents were/are doing the best to streat us equally..and this is our whole childhood basically🤏😌

but parents with disabled kids who never learned to teach their disabled child independence (to whatever degree they can function) expect others to uphold the responsibilities that were never theirs.

​@mishkawild1090yeah but I wouldn't call him a "killer in the making"

Wild ass take, I hope you never have to interact with a disabled person my guy.

Fellow autistic human: Preach :)

Shame he has a creepy face cause I was just sitting there. Thinking man, who is this creepy dude? Then he stood up for her and i was like cool creepy looking dude's is cool

​@mariocardenas2311 Though that is an extreme wording and implication. They are right that he could end up killing someone when he acts and thinks he can do whatever he wants just cause it tics or annoys him. They have failed to teach him even the bare basics of social engagement, individual respect, and basic right and wrong actions. I myself am autistic though im not severely autistic, I don't let my issues or ticks rule me. They should've tried harder themselves to teach him without making excuses, spoiling him and not giving consequences. That girl the sister should've been removed from their care and placed with another family member, because they were abusing her emotionally, physically (dealing with brother's tantrums, and getting hurt), then the educational abuse and parentification cause they want her to constantly be caring for her brother regardless of her wants, needs or care so long as she takes care of him to ease their burden of having to do it themselves.

true i have disabilitys and i dont behave like that

​@PupCookie1341 well you can't expect everyone to act the same?..

It was like a reflex. Like panic when overwhelmed. I have high support needs autism and adhd. When overstimulated i have meltdowns. Its not like a child being disobedient or having a tantrum. Its the brain telling you make whatever is happening stop bc it hurts. Also context bc the clip doesn't show what happened to make him grab her hair: her hair was constantly swinging and hitting him in the face causing him sensory overstimulation and distress. Context is always good.

The video doesn't show what happened to make him grab her hair. Context: her hair was constantly swinging and hitting him in the face causing him sensory overstimulation and distress.

​@shaylabass4651the parents are expecting the girl to be the next caregiver. Who cares if she wants to have a life, right?

@starstruckbyupronouns in the bio=opinion invalid

​@weazzwell that's the thing you don't get it they're disabled kids all out of the time can't be independent

@flameshu2 creepy face im crying what are you on

@insaneryscapes hes not wrong tho cuz i thought he was a creep too by how he was looking at the girl

@uyfj9312 I do get it. I have disabled family members. Ranging from FULL dependence, to functionally, fully, independent. Way to assume, and take the lazy way out. You do nobody no favors.

Bro she literally stole something I don’t care if she broke a record he bought that for himself

​@VEATHOOPALSuchitraAcadem-zh3dmhe just has the face of the average mean guy character in a show. If anyone watches amine, he looks like Reiner irl, just somone who if they r not laying low, they are usually saying something making you wonder if they are a bad guy or a traumatized kid.

@shaylabass4651that’s great but he still can’t do that. Period.

​@uyfj9312we also baby those we feel are less capable so instead of learning independence we push responsibilities on those that are great

​@WendyTendy-d8p same for me, even though I understand they have to spent more time with my sibling, they still try to keep it balanced and I'm happy with it, they try their best even when it's hard 🎉

Right. It seemed like the dad was more excited than the mom

Actually Sam (autistic kid) is older than Casey.

Edit: In the beginning of season 1 Sam is 18 and Casey is 15.

Regardless of whether or not the parents wanted the second kid, it is their job to take care of him. Not her.
Not disagreeing, btw, just adding on.

@uyfj9312they did say to whatever degree they can function so I think they had that part covered

In his mind she assulted him first by hitting him with her hair and some disabled people can't talk or step away when overstimulated, so he did something to stop it.
I don't think he pulled hard if at all. If she says that that hurts, then she should have noticed, that her hair was hitting him.
He didn't overdo it like pushing her away, pulling way too hard or any other violent thing, he just held her hair in place.
I doubt he was tought how to step away before something happens
I don't think this was for attention, but i haven't seen the full movie

I wouldn't allow my so called friend or boyfriend to intervene in a family conversation. If he is not your husband or family no reason to put your opinion in it. It's called having respect

​@anahimurillo1760 It's called standing up for your friends, if you're not capable of doing that, then you're a bad friend. You don't get to pick and choose what situations you feel like it's "ok" to stand up for your mates, you're either there for them if they are being wronged, or you're not.

​@saskiapohl2617 the show is called Atypical and its on Netflix and ur right. Thats what im trying to explain to this other guy in this thread but he's just not getting it.

*I'm good at my job

​@anahimurillo1760 imo a bf or friend are just chosen family. If they're close, like it seems they are in the clip, then they have a right to stand up for me when I can't do so for myself

​@ELP2626if you read my comment I wouldn't allow my friends to disrespect my family. Its called respect. Every culture different

When you grow up you'll learn that life isn't fair

​@MarthaMavhunga ya no your right.

As an autistic person I would feel awful holding my own sibling back just because they were told they had to look after me

even worse, he is the oldest of the two. but because of his disability they treat the younger sister like his caretaker

@PotatoPots14 yeah, but in this case, it could be.

Not the teaching history part! But this!

Thank you

Clock this. This man is speaking straight facts

The term is "glass child" when one child becomes invisible because the other child in the family has a learning disability or has chronic health conditions

English?

@rambotron34 Unfortunately it's a women's world in the modern day era. If he goes against the mom... they say 'Happy wife, happy life.' for a reason.

@rickscott9375 Gee whiz, where is this woman's world. I want to see it. Can I come?

​@rickscott9375for real

@rickscott9375 lmao sure mate, as long as you ignore history, and the current reality where the same man that comes onto his own daughter can also be president

She's still family. And family is meant to care for one another and sacrifice for one another. This kid literally NEEDS someone with him, through no fault of his own, and the parents can't exactly follow him to school all day every day. That just isn't realistic. It is extremely tough being a parent of a child with a mental disability like this, and to act like it's unreasonable to expect other family members to help doesn't make sense to me. The responsibility the parents have is to make sure he gets the care he needs, but if you are talking about situations in which they literally CAN'T be the ones to provide that care, then they are responsible for finding a way for him to get the care from another source. In this case, asking the sister to stay at the same school since they can't be with him at school is not only reasonable, but it is them fulfilling their responsibility. They clearly love their daughter just as much, but the reason they do things the way they do is because he NEEDS the extra attention and extra care, whereas for her it would just be nice to have, but is not required for her to function. She is capable of caring for herself more then he is, so the parents dedicate their time and attention to the child who needs it most, not for lack of love for the daughter, but because that is all you can really do as a parent in this situation. It's easy to cast judgement from the outside, but for those of us who have experienced having family members with mental health issues or disabilities, this situation looks a whole lot different.

And is it fair to him that he was born that way? Is it fair that he has to go through so much just to live his life with any semblance of normalcy? Life is often unfair. It is unfortunate to have a family member suffering like that, and it can cause a whole lot of stress and strain for the parents and siblings of the person too. It's an unfortunate and very unfair situation, but to act as if the son is somehow responsible for that unfairness simply because he was born with a disability that requires him to have additional care, or even to pin that responsibility purely on the parents, who are doing their very best to take care of and support both their children through that unfairness, is naieve. The world is rarely that black-and-white. It is not as simple as saying "she is suffering, therefore it is his fault." Too often people just want someone to pin the blame on and be angry at, so they totally miss the fact that no is truly at fault in an unfortunate situation like this. It's just a bad situation. It's ok sometimes for it to be nobodies fault when people struggle a bit. Just a bit of bad luck.

I wasn’t even allowed to attend school, partially because I needed to raise my youngest brother for my parents. They say I was a second parent (yes, I had a mother and father) but sometimes I was the primary. Now, I am still responsible in many ways, remotely. It’s a role that I never get to shift whatsoever. Parents can just be… ah.

From what I read in the comments, the girl cheats on him.

@danielzimmerman2440 Blatant neglect of their son, pinning the job on a child, and it’s no one fault?

You sound like the kind of parent every single one of their kids would walk away a from

@danielzimmerman2440he didnt ask to be born like that,but his sister and anyone but his parents has nothing to do with it. Be a man and do what you gotta do, dont rely on other people to solve your children problems

@danielzimmerman2440 genuinely shitty take. she could become a national athlete in the future with that kind of opportunity, which kind of idiot would sacrifice that to take care of her OLDER brother, who just unfortunately happened to be disabled.

Also by your logic, they can always sacrifice the brother's education to let her chase her dreams. only one of them is clearly good at what they do lol.

Why

​@abbie6005becayse they said a major incident like something really bad happen.But it just a minir accident and plus de parents are really overprotective on their son.

​@JeremyLatendresse-zx7lwwith good reason. People like that dont have social clues or understand the consequences of life or how it works.

@danielzimmerman2440 a village should be made up of consenting adults, not the children born into it. just because some people forced you into the world doesn't mean you have an automatic obligation to them and other children. no siblings are supposed to be caretakers, and while bonds will make someone want to care for family, they shouldnt be expected to off rip

"minir" "​de" "overprotective on their son" english? Is it not your first language orr@JeremyLatendresse-zx7lw

​​@JeremyLatendresse-zx7lw are you guys blind? A long vertical cut like that could possibly kill him if it hit veins, it's not a joke. Plus it needs to be cleaned immediately, you can't do this a few minutes later, that way it wouldn't work and you might get an infection. What do you expect father should've done, ignore it?

Ty

Not teaching history but making history lol

@danielzimmerman2440 if you watched the show, she sacrificed her whole life for him. and even when she went to clayton, she still made sure to be there for him. its not fair to her at all to sacrifice opportunity and her life for her.

@IsMine-n7e she does, and honeslty it sucks but. she figures out herself, but her new girlfreind sucks and im not too crazy about her when we first mmet her

@Bluestorm485 It's also not fair to blame him or the parents for the unfortunate situation they all found themselves in because he happened to be born that way. Life isn't fair. You don't always get what you want. It sucks that she had to suffer, but the rest of them would have been suffering because of it too. What is it, in your opinion, that makes her and her alone get a pass? What makes her have a greater right to fairness then her brother or parents? Why gives her alone the right to abandon him in pursuit of her dreams? I'm not saying that is what she did, but the general consensus here seems to be "it's not ok for her to struggle through the same difficulties the rest of the family is going through, therefore she should just abandon him and pursue her own dreams." I'm not trying to say she deserves it, but what I am saying is that all of them are and should be in this together, so I think it's wrong to act as if the parents are bad parents for asking her to help out, and it's definitely wrong for anyone to act as if it's the brothers fault when he is simply a victim of a condition he did not ask for. If you agree with me on that, then there is no reason for us to argue over it, and if you don't agree with me, I want to understand your opinion and why it is that you feel she shouldn't have sacrificed for him as you say she did. Just to make it clear because I know text sometimes doesn't convey intent well, this isn't an attack on your opinion or your comment or anything. I just want to understand your opinion more clearly and the reasons you have that opinion.

​@Grass_molester The misspelt ONE word, man. You can figure it out.

@n@nonyanae2
I genuinely don’t understand what they’re tryna say. “No child should be required to allow their sibling to rely on them like that”.Once i wrote it it sounded a little better, but still. Also they didn’t even miss spell a word, you’re assuming what i think.

​@Grass_molesterReply. They misspelled rely. Also there's nothing wrong with the way they worded it, you just have crap reading comprehension.

@nonyanae2
Alr idc, whatever you say bro

He did go to therapy.

Thank you

Perhaps. But it was so important that someone defended her.

Wasn't a boyfriend 🫩

No he was disrespectful to her family and you can tell he also has no value for family 🤦🏾‍♂️

@DontaeJohnson-r5n rage bait

@Bluestorm485what’s the show?

​@thegamerhelper-freegames9930 Atypical

@DontaeJohnson-r5ndefinitely rage bait

Thank you

@DontaeJohnson-r5n clown

​@DontaeJohnson-r5n When the family has no respect towards you I see no reason why you should have any respect for that family

I agree, when my child was little(autistic which I didn't really know about it much at the time) my family made me believe I should just accept it and let them behave however they wanted. This small child beat the crap out of me daily. It wasn't just autism, it was also a small child learning what was okay and not okay test boundaries like every child. This kid beat the crap out of me daily, black eyes busted nose, bruised up and it wasn't until I got them in school I learned more about it and got them in behavior therapy and they stopped. My family made me feel like I was abusing a disabled person for stopping them from sticking a fork in an outlet type of stuff or told them no they couldn't blow out candles and open all the presents at someone elses birthday and got punched square in the face and bitten when I stopped them. They would even threaten to call child protection services. And my main argument with them was I wont always be around and neither will they, they need to understand this behavior is wrong and hurts ppl and in the real world someone may do far worse to them than just put them in time out for it. They might end up in jail or worse killed. Thank goodness they were actually high functioning and it was mainly testing boundaries and we got it under control with therapy and my chikd does none of these things now. They use coping mechanisms for the things that were part of the autism and I am not longer worried anymore.

whats this show or movie called?

@hey_mylovelyyyy atypical

Thank you

@britz91 good on u for learning the truth

So insane. You are going to sacrifice her whole future, a one in a lifetime opportunity, because of your disabled son! You take care of him, you figure it out!

Yeah and then she cheats on him with some girl, and then breaks up with him when he finds out. Turns out she wasn't actually too good for that place. He was a real one though.

It wasn't true. She cheated on him later in the show and then broke up with him afterwards.

Creates a bad codependency where someone in this situation won’t ever get to do anything they want on their own without having to think of someone being reliant on them (even when it’s not their role/job). Knew a family like this some years back in the late 90s growing up where the parents had a son with a disability who relied heavily on his older brother. They were about 8-12 years older than me, but they were out in my hometown a LOT. Everyone knew them.

One of the parents died after they got out of high school, which I guess put that pressure on him even more. Just all got put on the brother to take care of him.

He was the one who had to work and do everything, never even got to go to college, never got married, never had kids of his own. His brother had to go wherever he went basically.

Now both the parents have passed last I heard, and the older brother is dealing with ALS where hospice had had to come in. No one there to help him but a few family members on the outside doing small things while still having to house his brother with a disability. Heard the family is trying to take the brother in, but that dependency has done been set. Neither of them ever got to learn to be on their own.

It’s … really, really, really sad.

They needed to stop enabling his behavior a long time ago. This shit will not get him anywhere in the future.

What if it was a guy and the disabled one was a girl? Would your opinion change?

@MarieCarmelleDDorval what if the roles were reversed and it was a guy and the disabled one was a girl would your opinion be different? Genuine question

Not wanting to help your disabled sibling is messed up. Family first

​@kingdrift1136 no, you should prioritize yourself before anyone else (family included). because if you’re always putting others first, that’s not fair at all. you should be the first priority in your own life. in this video, they’re being really selfish toward her

Well, while I agree that the girl isn’t responsible for her brother, a few things you said are wrong. First of all, it’s not the parents fault about the aids. I worked in an elementary school and I know budget cuts affect aids, speech therapy and a lot of help for kids who need it. And the parents cannot be his one on one because no school is going to let a parent follow their child around all day to help them. Second, no parent can hire a private aid to work in a school. The problem here is the school systems and that’s why we have to watch how we vote on levy’s each year. They affect a lot of things, even busing. But yes, the daughter should be allowed to live her life as a normal teenager and not be totally responsible for her brother. Yes, she should help with him on occasion because that’s what families do, help. But raising him or educating him is not her job.

The first time I watched the short I was like "Did he flub the line and they left it in?". Watch closely. It is intentional.

@hospitalfood6621 Sorry. It bothered me. AIDS is a syndrome. Aides are people who help you. And to close with a joke? Aydes was a diet pill that existed in the early 80s as the crisis began.

@AceofheartsDee It bothers me that they did not like Michael....... well Michael.

His best roles are LOUD opinionated dudes. Here is seems he is beaten down and "Go along to get along". It takes me out.

it’s called being the glass child

​@chxseytu are a men right u don't even know when and where and how the situation is being compared 😒

I mean, she took him literally. He should have said "They're all for me." He left that opening right in front of her and she took it. 😂 He honestly didn't need all of them anyways. It also seems like he rewarded himself for pulling a stranger's hair, which his parents shouldn't have allowed at that point.

Sam never wanted his sister to take care of him it’s their parents he loves his sister and even was the first person to realize she liked girls and help her come to terms with it. This show is about Sam wanting to navigate the world by himself and his parents still try to baby him. ( mind you Sam is older than Casey) the parents were just horrible at first.

I agree but I am also a autistic person where my needs are not that high 😅

Your an amazing parent and I hope you know that. ❤

And this is why i dont ever want to have kids

​@__.Thatonenerdykid.__❤❤❤ you're so sweet thank you!!!

An autistic person also needs to look after them self can't use autisim az a pass for everything

As a autistic person myself but in some shows and movies, they're for some reason trying to make autism seem like a bad thing

​@kingdrift1136sam was very much capable of handling school on his own. The mom just didnt see it. Sister got to trsnsfer and he was fine. You dont dim ppl light

That's what my parents did to me. I missed so much. Now that I have a child of my own I struggle with thinking how similar being a mom and being a "sister" were.

@chxseyt everybody’s girl is going to

Not only that it's not an excuse to be an asshole either that's on the parents for enabling his more harmful behaviors and not finding a way to teach him boundaries that correspond with his venison of logic

Same, completely agree

Much watch the movie the other sister

@chxseytstatically accurate to the lore of her character

phenomenal writing. straight out of someone’s diary. film has a tendency to say things in a way we wish we could.

My older brother had to become a parent like figure for me. Mental illness runs in the family. Ww2 german heritage ptsd/shame and 3rd world Hispanic revolution disillusionment and then immigration issues, legal immigrant issues to make that clear.
An outsider background if you will. I was born in America.
We're alone and with no family to save or visit us.
Plus being mixed marks me as an outcast and being smart beyond my years. I was a egocentric sociopathic autistic pos.
My folks didn't know how to navigate or prepare us for modern times and use technology still don't at a kids capacity that we take for granted. I have to help put things on full screen and get a type writer set up for a keyboard.
Any guidance or modern norm I can only look up to my brother for since he experienced and had to learn it first and isn't for the lack of better words so out of touch with the times and the environment we live in. We only had each other and no other family. I'm the older half of gen z 25.
My pops a boomer in his 70s and my mother is in her very late 50s.
It was out of necessity my brother had to step up. These folks here are just dumb and selfish not mental.
My folks still raised us as best as they could muster and understand.
Roof over our heads, warm beds, water and food.
Internet what's that?
The wii is the devil's work.
OH MY GOTT!
Fun times.
It was only education being a point of contention since my mother believes in it and holds it in high regards. In Western countries its only a piece of paper and debt the only guarantee.

Depending on your state, it would be battery. assault is the threat or attempt to harm someone, while battery is the actual physical contact or harm (or any unwanted touching apparently)

Yes! My SIL used to be a therapist that worked with autistic kids so that they could function in the world.

​@bugstomper123 oh thanks I couldn't remember

Yup. Me too. My parents are very emotionally immature people. Never even shoulda married let alone had kids. 😢

@reesepowell04yea but doesn’t he know that I’m trying to remember is this after she kisses her friend cuz like he was so supportive through the whole thing like such a green flag

I went to school with an autistic guy whos parents basically did the same. especially the mom. Coddled, would do everything for him.... his parents did eventually divorce and being with his dad alone has actually improved him leaps and bounds in terms of independance, thankfully... but yeah... theres parents out there like that sadly

Me too. 3 siblings. I was 8 when it started. Mom did her best, but she had to work ALL the time bc my dad is man child who still can't hold down a job. He has the mentality of a frat boy🙄me and my mom communicated thru notes, sometimes months at a time bc she wld either b working or sleeping.

@hospitalfood6621 An aide is a noun that means a person whose job is to act as an assistant or helper to someone in a position of authority, government, or a specialized profession

​@Ifiwasaslimeitwould_becoolthis is before she even knows she doesn't like guys. Only after she moves to the new school does she meet her future girlfriend

@reesepowell04 They literally date and then she cheats on him lol.

​@Ifiwasaslimeitwould_becool They date and then she cheats on him with the girl. She is not depicted as a lesbian.

​@kingdrift1136its not a case of not wanting to help its a case of putting yourself first especially if your sibling already has support from your parents. You shouldnt feel the need prioritise others needs over yours especially during a life changing oppertunity. Thats not "family first" thats just unhealthy.

It be child abuse if they didn't care for his cut

I fully agree on that and parents usually just are just as new an clueless they aren't aware of this always and there for i think every parent with a child of any disability needs a therapist and guidance themselves so they truly can balance what's best for their child the other children and themselves aswell it's a family everyone should matter equally

He is! And this is also why he didn't deserve being cheated on! She waited to see if the girl felt the same way before ending it, weak move

@WindStar-wu4qo yeye i get that i just mean they got over his behavior quickly (i have NO idea how to word this omg🥹)

​@jinxxx_viruzthat's ok

Completely agree. My parents didn’t even tell my older brother that he was autistic until he was in middle school when he started noticing. Once he did know, they always told him “it’s an explanation for why you are struggling, not an excuse for you to fall behind.”

I honestly don't remember why he had that reaction... the show is called "Atypical" he's autistic

USA the country of lawsuits

​@isabelestrada7481from the looks of the short, he got annoyed because that girl's ponytail was swinging back and forth right in front of him, and his first instinct was to grab it and hold it still (the more socially appropriate reaction would have been to move away, of course)

After that, the (naturally) large reaction from the girl and his dad(?) made him tighten his grip out of fear

@WindStar-wu4qonot when hes like 16 years old.. tf you talking about?

​@vtauoyctynwbrooylm6008Exactly! Or "I bought these for me, and me alone. If you want one, you have to buy it yourself."

Stop having kids

​@zachrygarland4698He has a disability what do you mean and like a severe one

Unfortunately I have seen this before

I was the "glass child" because my older brother had so many issues. Lots of emotional neglect, some physical neglect, often emotional manipulation; even as an adult, there is this expectation that I will help support/take care of my brother when my parents are gone. HAHAHA
My mother has tried to "make up" for the disconnect in my childhood and I am extremely close to her; my dad has alzheimers so it's a day to day situation with him; but I am extremely apathetic towards my brother.
I heavily approve of Casey's friend, Evan, for standing up for her.

Then tell them that were they ever a kid who was forced to be a parent to there siblings and if they say no tell them that this is why kids don’t talk to parents like her and she should take responsibility and not be a big baby

Older brother should be bullied tbh

Pretty sure she leaves and he gets services anyways so there was rlly no point for the parents to be acting like that

they love like a failing long distance relationship

​@reign1576 elaborate?

My mom told me I wasn’t allowed to look depressed because it made my siblings restless. We don’t talk.

Like so get him another aide. A teenager cannot fill the role of a professional disability accommodation staff member anyway.

​@thaloblue it's deeply saddening how disconnected some parents are from their children. My childhood was rocky as well, thankfully my parents have come around. It just took a long while. The situation isn't perfect, but I'm glad to have a relationship with them now. Of course they showed real regret, and worked to better themselves.

@Tortalanderi am glad your parents eventually listened to reason. Mine refuse to… and at this point its been 5 years since we last spoke to each other. If they called tomorrow and begged forgiveness and swore they would change and go to therapy or whatever… I just wouldn’t be that interested. I’d be happy for my younger siblings who are still stuck in their house, but I have no interest in playing family with my parents anymore.

I raised autistic kids. I would never ask their neurotypical sibling to sacrifice their opportunities to look after them!

Which movie/show?

Yeah, is no one going to explain why he was pulling a random girl's hair? I think I also saw her in the stands after?

​@gemmabous3426 Apparently it was because she was inadvertently hitting him with her ponytail whenever she turned her head, but that's still not a valid excuse for him to have grabbed it and pulled as hard as he did.

Agreed, if they can’t handle parenting the kids they have they should surrender them to the state.

I have a kid with serious disabilities (making Sam look like a "normal" kid.) I would never make his brother responsible for him like these parents. Holding my incredibly talented and smart older son back so he could be an unpaid aid for his disabled brother. That is so incredibly cruel and would make him feel completely hopeless.

​@thaloblue I completely understand, I don't blame you.

​@IMHAVINGAboiby2 I agree, but he didn't look like he was pulling if that was supposed to be the reading it should have been done a little differently

@IMHAVINGAboiby2 Yeah poor girl. She also got hurt. All the father said was a sorry in her general direction.

thank you.

So true, after I graduated I was out. No more working, cleaning, cooking and looking after my 5 siblings. I made it .

@Tortalanderthanks. Meeting people who get it makes a big difference.

@Champion_of_Vlaakith of course love. Go out there and be great! 🧚✨

@Dominiquechić :)

My mom is this way, she expects me to do the heavy lifting with my siblings while she does the bare minimum. As if I’m the parent.

FACT!

Signed, spectrum-disorder grown-ass child of a Special Ed teacher. IEPs are a godsend.

​@tshegofatsolekaba1631that's so hard and unfair

Foreal even if my kid was disabled if he grabbed and was physically hurting another person id punch him in the face.

Depends on the state and if he meets criteria for a 1-to-1 aide. You can’t just get an aide just because you ask for it.

@mamaheim If an accommodation (like an aide) has been written into his documentation (which follows guidelines from the state where the school is located) the school is legally required to provide it. If it’s in the IEP, then he meets the criteria.

IEP’s are not parent wish lists. They are based on data, observations, and work samples that have been generated by teachers.
Source: I am a special education teacher who literally just finished preparing for my first IEP meeting of the year.

@sarahraisingmyvoice lmao thank u my teachers treated it as a if u want list

@sarahraisingmyvoicespecial needs mom 10+ years of IEPS, ISPs, 504s, here and I’m an educational advocate.
My point is that depending on the state/district and sometimes the school the criteria changes. My cousin is a special ed teacher on the west coast, if the child needs it, they get it. It’s not like that where I live. I’ve been in meetings where the district has refused to even evaluate the child and the parents had to threaten to sue. I’ve been in other meetings where the district acknowledges that the child would benefit from support but they don’t have the resources to give it to that child. I’m not disagreeing with what IDEA/ADA calls for. I’m saying that in some places it’s harder to get support than others.

@chxseytShe cheated on him??? Oh my God!

​@SkeleLock fr

Typical western behavior.
I guess when parents get old, it’s nursing home for them?

This is the mentality when individualism is the prime directive.

Thank you

My mother did the same, I know she didn’t always have perfect moments with my brother, but she never relied on him to take care of me because of my autism, and certainly never had him give up on his dreams, if he did I wouldn’t let him.

Thank you!

He actually didn't hurt someone knowingly these are their inner instincts they sometimes don't even know what they are doing...😅 He saw her hairs moving like that his hand got ticklish and he hold them and he can't unhold it again , that's why parents are told to be extra careful with autistic children they are innocent

@k@k-dramastyleat is not a child

​@k-dramastylefair. But reacting like he is the victim when he isnt is doing no favors

​@k-dramastyledid you not hear the girl say ow your hurting me stfu

Dziękuję 😊

Thats only in the movies - IRL, they would've screamed for him to leave and got in his face before he even finished his sentence. Irrational ppl don't respond well to reason.

I'm so sorry that happened to you 😢

Agreed. To some extent I can ignore SOME of what Sam does, some I can blame him, and others I just blame the parents. Sam is not at the level of development he should be for his age AND honestly seems unhappy and distressed every time I see him.

Yes, having her be an advocate for him at school is a boon... but the relationship between them is toxic because of how the Parents handle it.

@paps.4065 It wasn't my sister's fault. She wasn't advantaged over me, just... I was expected to be content with only what had been offered to her before me. Whether I earned better or not. That was bad parenting.

@SarahBarker-e5e Thank you. When I finally got out on my own, I made my way and I'm happy with my life now.

I’ve been through something similar. Sometimes I’ll have family members still try to convince me that “blood is thicker than water. The only people you can actually depend on is family. Family is all you really have.” They completely lack comprehension of having a chosen family. They don’t understand how I can love anyone else like a family member. I’m so happy you chose yourself and stuck with it, not letting them guilt or gaslight you into going back to being a people please. Keep up the great work.

​@chxseytwhy are you giving spoilers?

​@PandoraStolen this show is like a decade old lmao

Enabling and accommodating are two very different things. And it’s difficult to assess needs from a few seconds of a clip.

In any case the responsibility should never have fallen to the sister and the parents are terrible people for even suggesting that. And it would backfire too. She’ll probably come to resent her brother and hate him and neither of the children deserve that.

The school gets paid extra money specifically to accommodate disabled kids and are legally obligated to do so.

The parents are the sole guardians, the ones who chose to have and support their children (plural!), and the ones who will be held most accountable legally for neglect or abuses.

But sure let’s blame the literal child who doesn’t even have guardianship of herself and full rights as an adult citizen yet and hold her responsible. The sad thing is teens in this case are often too young and sheltered to realize they aren’t responsible at all and will never be held accountable. But the parents gaslighting her into thinking she is can cause a lot of trauma.

That’s something totally different. Nobody chooses a disability. But your sister chose to be a prick and not choose your side. This video shows you where your morals lie: your own sport winning medals that don’t change the world for the better, or be the world for your brother and help him? If the girl had a scholarship to become a good surgeon or doctor, understandable she chooses her own life. But for useless sports that benefits no one?

@victoriaanne6332 I'll save you the hassle: She goes to the private school, he's fine at the normal public school without her because he made friends who keep an eye on him.

@victoriaanne6332 if as basically a grown ass man he's assaulting strangers then he needs to be in a ward. it drives me crazy people give autism an abusive pass. if you cant stop yourself from harming others in society then you dont belong in it

Well you don't get it as you didn't go through that. she has a disabled brother. what your parents did to you was horrible. what they are doing here is different.

I can attest to at times when someone is genuinely flattened with unbridled honesty it can really hit you. Most people really aren’t assholes they are just so focused on one perspective for so long until it’s challenged. When it’s done like this with nothing to gain and everything to lose it’s hard to dismiss

I agree. I'm glad he said something.

​@YourGuiltyConsciencethats not even remotely true. You cant make a statement about all parents, thats called stereotyping.

​@Critical_thinking_is_underatedyea dude, i couldnt have said that any better. You are wise and that was very well put

Check and read how people in 3rd world countries handle these issues. It's quite Interesting.

You aren’t alone. My older brother has cerebral palsy, my parents were 19-21 when they had my brother and I. A life of stress. Mom was always depressed and absent in the house, dad worked. By 10 my parents sold coke for money to get us in a better school district and house as my dad was the only person working(family business my uncle always did the “moneys tight I’ll pay next week, I grew up in shit apartments while he lived in a mansion with new trucks every year) they ended up using and I became my brothers only keeper because they’d be gone or sleeping because they’d been partying. I was 10 waking my brother up, changing his diaper, clothing and carrying him into his wheelchair. I miss so much school I was almost held back every year until my parents got clean by the time I was 13. By highschool my brother was constantly sick almost died because a neuro surgeon left foreign object in his stomach and we couldn’t sue because it didn’t hurt his quality of life(what every lawyer said, it was because the neurosurgeon was the only one in the Buffalo area). My brother ended up needing spinal surgery a few years later and I was almost forced to drop out by my school for missing class to take care of my brother because my mom couldn’t. I’m right here with you, the loss of childhood through being a caretaker and being put on the back burner for your formative years is heartbreaking in retrospect. I hope you’re doing well and I hope life has got better for you ❤️🫡

​​@iXmetalXiI was fortunate to have my caretaker duties removed when I was 16 because our foster carers decided they were just done with my brother and dumped him in a group care facility before we basically moved states. Unfortunately, I never really got past everything that happened.. I'm still looking for a decent therapist who can help me through my trauma. I've been to countless over the years and none have helped. I'm turning 25 in December and I'm still so hurt by everything that I have not been able to get my life together, not to mention I now have the possibility of a chronic illness.

I have very little self worth due to raising my brother. I'd wake up every morning around 6am to him screaming at the top of his lungs that everything was my fault, that he hated me and I should never have been born. All because he was asked to get ready for school. Every morning for 10 years..

Honestly, sometimes I just want to hate him. God sometimes I want to hate him so bad. But I just can't. I can blame him for things but I can't hate him. Because he loves me. He is so sweet and protective of me in his own way. I won't go into details but I am a CSA survivor, at the hands of our second cousin. He was so outraged when I told him our cousin hurt me. I never told him how but he was still so mad. This didn't stop him from inviting him to visits unfortunately, but that's probably because I never truly told him what happened. Another time, during a period in my life when I was dealing with some bad body image issues, our uncle called me fat and I spent an hour crying in the bathroom. I learned much later that he yelled at him and demanded 'how dare he call me that'. So as much as I might want to, I can't help but love him, despite everything he's put me through. Do you have that same struggle?

Despite all this though, I am doing better than I could be. I have a wonderful and deeply supportive partner who also understands the weight of raising their siblings (they did it with 4 of them, much like me as I also had the twins to take care of until foster care split us up).

I sincerely hope you are doing well and have taken control of your life, and that your brother is getting the help and support he needs. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. ❤

If he's in public school, it's not the parent's decision what class he ends up in and what kind of support he has. The school decides that. And the school is limited by the resources that they have.

​@margaretalbrecht4650 the patents apply for IEP Programs. It absolutely is their responsibility

​@margaretalbrecht4650 This is absolutely not true. I grew up in public schools and each one has special ed classes. The parents can indeed put him in those classes. In fact if a kid does have a learning disability they put them in there right away at times.

​@GoldphoolParents can apply. School evaluates and decides.

@Dark_Angel_1257 how u doing now ?

She shouldn’t have drank/done drugs. She was also down to sleep with 2 of them at the same time. She was taken advantage of and the men should be hung but she was reckless. Don’t sleep with random dudes - especially not drunk/high

​@Dark_Angel_1257 your brother just wanted to be the only one to abuse you. That's not love.

what does this has to do with anything?
Also the case is much more complex than that. I get what you are trying to say, the behaviour was terrible, but this is not the way you talk about a complex case, it´s too reductionist.

Your dad's trying to pawn off his responsibilities onto you

Im in the same situation but I was at a point where it wasn't affecting me but my other younger siblings. We love our disabled sibling very much, but it really pains me seeing that the others are just being used as tools to take care of that sibling. And when there's an emotional outburst it's their fault for not watching their sibling. I'm doing my best to make sure all my siblings are seen since my parents are too oblivious.
All im trying to say is you're not alone if that helps any.

You’re not Casey

i’m so sorry that this is happening in your life…. i think sometimes the parents are the ones that need to hear a reality check, i was very fortunate that my parents treated me and my sibling separately and was never told that we had to be responsible for each other, i joined the army i left my home when i was 16. best decision i ever made even though it made me disabled i would still do it again. Go by your own compass, your folks will eventually see the truth. if you ever need a chat im here 😊

​@Mynameisjulieok Ok. I'll be the short paragraph person. The OC relates to the character in this short. Whose name is Casey. They share similar issues as Casey. She sees a commonality with Casey. I hope that helps.

Thank you

@TreFromMOyou’re welcome it’s a good show